"Healing is not about moving on or 'getting over it,' it's about learning to make peace with the pain and finding a way to grow from it." – Unknown
The new year always seems to bring with it the idea of change and transformation. We set New Year's intentions and resolutions with the best of intentions, only to find them fading away by the third week of January. Soon enough, we find ourselves slipping back into familiar patterns, living the same life, and getting the same results.
But what if this year could be different? Especially if you’ve experienced upheaval in your relationships—whether it's the end of a significant partnership, family issues creating unease, or emotions triggered by unresolved conflicts—you might find yourself asking: How does this change affect my path? Should it? The answer is: Yes, it can. And yes, it should.
You can absolutely set goals that honor your healing journey. This blog is designed to help you create a new healing pattern in your life by looking at New Year’s Resolutions through the lens of continuous growth—incremental and intentional—rather than the typical "one-and-done" approach that so often leads to disappointment.
This article will guide you with practical tips to help you identify worthy goals and build a fulfilling 2025.
1. Start with a Vision – Define What a Healthy Relationship Means to You
Ask yourself: What is a healthy relationship? This question isn’t just about romantic partnerships; it includes your relationships with family, friends, and most importantly, yourself.
Take a moment to reflect on your core values. Core values are the foundation upon which your life is built. They should act as your guiding light. Yet, many people look for these values in others and rarely consider how their daily actions reflect the values they seek.
Does honesty, transparency, and mutual support resonate with you? Do you value kindness, patience, and understanding?Write these down—they are your foundation.
Understanding your values is essential because they serve as the compass for setting meaningful goals. If your goals align with your values, you're far more likely to stay committed.
Self-Reflection Exercise: Write a list of the qualities you value in others. Then ask yourself if you embody those same qualities.
“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” – Steve Maraboli
2. Build a Relationship with Yourself
The next important question is: Do I have that kind of relationship with myself?
You attract the energies you emit. That old saying, “like attracts like,” holds a lot of truth.
If you want healthy relationships, you need to cultivate that same energy within yourself.
Take an honest look at your actions and thoughts over the past year:
Were you honest with yourself and others?
Do you rely on others to “take care” of you emotionally?
Are you able to admit your mistakes and avoid projecting blame onto others?
Do you manipulate situations to get your way?
Do you create drama as a way to receive attention?
Self-awareness is a powerful tool, but it’s important to approach this reflection with compassion, not judgment. Recognize where you can grow without shaming yourself. Your actions are based on your level of awareness, and personal growth is about increasing that awareness.
Action Step: Write down three ways you can show up for yourself this week—be it setting boundaries, speaking kindly to yourself, or committing to a self-care routine.
3. Create One or Two Daily Habits That Support Your Goals
Big transformations happen through small, consistent actions. Choose one or two habits that you can implement daily to support your emotional and spiritual healing.
Examples:
Take a walk at lunchtime or after work to clear your mind.
Practice active listening in your conversations.
Identify and challenge the filters you use to process information.
These small steps might feel insignificant at first, but consistency is key. Over time, they build momentum and create lasting change.
4. Begin Each Day with a Meaningful Affirmation
Your mindset sets the tone for your day. Start each morning with an affirmation that aligns with your goals and healing.
For example: “Every moment is a gift, whether easy or difficult.”
Sometimes, we are our own harshest critics. The negative self-talk can begin before our feet even touch the floor. But when you remind yourself that today is a gift, your perspective shifts.
Practical Tip: Set reminders on your phone with your daily affirmation. Let an alarm go off midday to remind you of your intention.
5. Focus on Small, Consistent Steps Over Big Leaps
Healing isn’t about making drastic changes overnight—it’s about showing up for yourself every day, in small but meaningful ways.
Your goal isn’t to become someone new; it’s to become more you—a version of yourself that feels at peace, authentic, and whole.
Over time, you can move from saying “Today is a gift” to “I AM a gift.” By increasing your awareness and aligning your actions with your core values, you’ll start to see a profound shift in how you view yourself and your relationships.
You’ll naturally begin to give selflessly to others because you’re secure in your own being.
“Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.” – Akshay Dubey
Final Thoughts
Setting goals that honor your healing journey is not about perfection—it’s about progress. It’s about committing to small daily habits, staying honest with yourself, and embracing the process.
This year, let your goals reflect your healing, your values, and your vision for the life you want to create. And remember, healing isn’t linear. Celebrate your small wins, be patient with yourself, and trust the journey.
You are not broken. You are becoming.
Are you ready to take the next step in your healing journey?
Join my free Vision Workshop on the 3rd Saturday of the month to gain clarity and set powerful goals.
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